Marriage Series: Step One

Marriage Series: Step One

Loving Complaints Require Self Examination

Step One: What is your motivation? It’s hard to be honest about this one. Often, our primary goal is to let our spouse know how wrong they were. We’ve been hurt and simply want to issue a strong reprimand.

We give them some of the pain they caused us back to them in the form of anger. We may also want to punish them for what they’ve done. We want them to know how wrong they were so they won’t hurt us again. Right?

While these are understandable human motivations, they are not founded in love, and leave out the heart of our spouse and they will never lead to a closer more loving relationship. I think the goal should be restoration and mutual growth.

This goal changes everything.

Bill Rush

Bill is a Licensed Psychologist and received his Ph.D. from The Union Institute and University in Cincinnati, Ohio. and his Masters in Counseling and Psychotherapy from the Adler Graduate School. He was an intern and therapist at the Christian Recovery Center from 1999 to 2002. He is a member in good standing of the American Association of Christian Counselors.